I think that our university has been thorough on what they were charged to do. I think that in all of these situations you are always looking for improvements in what you’re doing. There’s nobody involved in this very tragic situation that looks back on it and says ‘we did everything right.’ We were charged with giving the Shembo family information and counsel...and as a university, and, as the head coach, we felt that...it didn’t serve him or his family to talk about this situation. -Coach Brian Kelly
I would be more than happy to release her [Lizzy's] entire academic, medical records — her entire history — if he [Shembo's attorney] was willing to do the same as it respects his client, and then maybe we can let the public decide who was in greater need of supervision. -Tom Seeberg, Lizzy's father
|Notre Dame coach Brian Kelly on Friday addressed the advice he gave to former|
Irish linebacker Prince Shembo regarding the Lizzy Seeberg case.
(SBT Photo/GREG SWIERCZ)
Certainly Prince Shembo finally opening up to his involvement in the Seeberg scandal (if only because his "name was going to flames" among the NFL scouts) forced Kelly's hand. Still, for a situation in which Lizzy was (allegedly) sexually assaulted by Shembo, then committed suicide after receiving a threatening text about the consequences of messing with Notre Dame football, and getting little help from the campus police, Kelly played his cards about as close to the vest as he could. For example, Kelly's "admitting" that he and the ND powers to be aren't saying 'we did everything right,' he also isn't admitting to doing a single thing wrong either. Of course, Kelly (and the administration) didn't exactly admit to doing anything wrong in the Declan Sullivan (in which a student manager fell to his death when gale winds broke the lift he was filming the Irish practices from) or the Manti Te'o "catfish" case (when Te'o found out his online girlfriend who died of cancer was a fake). But these tragedies at least ended well...or as well as could be expected, while Lizzy's response seems to be getting worse.
As Tom Seeberg noted, the university and police more aggressively investigated the 2012 case of linebacker Manti Te'o's fictitious girlfriend than that of his dead daughter. "In a he-said-she-said matter, you can quickly gather forensic evidence to try to determine what happened there, or you can let it linger like they did. Let evidence spoil," Seeberg said.
Meanwhile, in the Comcast interview, Kelly spoke about how amazed he was at how well Declan's parents have accepted the situation, how close he has grown to them over the years, and how the plaque (which includes a poem the family chose) to Declan near where he died, ensures that he and the team will continue to honor him. Contrast this to the fact that not only does Lizzy not have a plaque (or statue, as I suggested) at Notre Dame, but Kelly, let alone University president, Fr. John Jenkins, have yet to even say they are sorry to the Seebergs, instead implying off the record to rich alumni that Lizzy's depression and mental state were to blame.
|Mary and Tom Seeberg (Bill Hogan, Chicago Tribune, 12-10-10)|
- "Coach, Shembo said that the sexual contact between the two was mutual. But do you agree with Prince that there is nothing wrong with touching a girl's breast–on the first date? If not, wasn't this aggression worth at least a one-game suspension?"
- "You agreed with Notre Dame's harsh suspension of your starting quarterback Everett Golson for an entire season for academic improprieties. Does it not seem hypocritical to you that this same strict administration conducted almost no investigation into the even-more serious charge of sexual assault?"
- "You said you can empathize with Declan Sullivan's parents. Wouldn't this same empathy compel you to reach out to Lizzy's folks as well?"